Tearfree, have you ever had a toxic female friendship?
Not since high school. For some reason toxic friendships seems to be much more of a problem among all those super supportive Koolaid-swigging Mummy bloggers in Eckler's comment section. Hmmm.
Is that because you don't have friendships?
Tearfree has friends.
Or maybe it’s because you’re a man?
No, for the record once and for all, I am not a man. I am 100% XX. And I will not answer this question again.
Tearfree, what will you blog about once the Koolaid Mom/Eckler controversy dies down?
Softwood lumber.
Tearfree, what have you got against swearing?
The Mummy blogosphere is all WTF and STFU and abso-fucking-lutely and pass the Koolaid. That language is so affected and tiresome and totally easy to parody. But more importantly, as one of my favourite bloggers recently pointed out, if Jack Bauer doesn’t swear, given all he goes through in 24 hours, why are a bunch of SAHMummy bloggers constantly trash talking over a few night feedings?
Do you have any other blog rules we should know about, Tearfree?
Yes, no outing people be they Tearfree or her posters. At this blog, you have the right to remain anonymous or pseudonymous. And Tearfree wishes to remain the latter.
Is that why you are now using comment moderation?
Yes—and also because Urban Mummy was trash talking and falsely accusing me of using the F-word. But I still want you to comment and keep it MEANingful. And because I don’t have a life, I will be enabling comments frequently.
UPDATE: YOU CAN NOW COMMENT TO YOURT HEARTS' CONTENT WITHOUT MODERATION. YOU GO GIRLS -- AND BOYS!
Tearfree, do you use sock puppets?
Jafo was a real commenter from HBM, but the Jafo in my comments was a sock puppet used to establish my blogging persona and build momentum. Now that the comments seem to be taking off, I promise, until further notice, not to use sock puppets.
Tearfree, can posters use sock puppets?
Yes, if it’s for a good reason, but things could get tiresome really fast if everyone’s constantly accusing everyone else of being a sock puppet. It’s worked well up until now, but I worry it could get overdone.
Since so many posters have accused you of not having a life, could you share your weekend plans with us?
I plan to watch the entire season four of 24.
12 comments:
Hi there Tearfree,
I'm just trying to figure out why you are _so_ incredibly nasty and mean spirited. What do you care if some mothers find a niche and a group of people that they can commiserate with? Sure, maybe you don't feel the same way, but why is it necessary to mock and slam them? It seems to me to be just a mean spirited sort of thing to do.
What's going on here anyway? Kind of nothing, it seems. There was a little flash in the pan, sort of. Stirred up a little action but it doesnt look like you're able to sustain it. I think an issue is that you dont actually reveal anything of yourself other than that you are an attention seeker. Your goal is to get on to gawker.com or make some list. Come on, that's jack-pot thinking. You need to find some substance. Your only schtick is to be contrary or slag others. I hope your "academic" work is at least a little more substantial. You are a penny-stock that has peaked at a nickel. Now, you owe it to yourself to make some effort. You can do better. I know it. I mean, anyone could do better. But you need to elevate yourself into the adult world. Reveal something. Make yourself vulnerable. Am I expecting too much?
Oh Jenn, put a sock in it. Go back to posting "you're awesome!" and "you rock!" on the blog of the "journalist" -- and I use that term lightly -- who is apparently considered the biggest joke in Canada if all the editors in here are to be believed.
Leave Tearfree alone. She is funny, witty, and although I have never met her, I think I heart her.
I am a mother and I'd actually like to read a blog where intelligent mothers write intelligent things and then the comments/debate section has a bit more substance to it than you and/or Rebecca herself posting: "Wow, Rebecca, I'm so glad you bought that Coach bag!" after she's just gone on proudly for 1,000 words about how she's barely ever been alone with her child (the post she later deleted, I hasten to add) and how she couldn't even manage to get up in the morning with the poor kid in a strange place without a nanny.
I prefer Tearfree's funny blog, and Andrea Gordon's, and Postcards from the Mothership. They are real mothers, not fame junkies desperately trying to get attention for themselves no matter how badly and soullessly they have to exploit their child and husband. Why don't you check them out and leave Tearfree alone.
Hi Jenn,
It totally rocks that you’ve stopped by and lent your support to the comment section.
What I’m hearing is that you don’t get my type of humour. You clearly prefer “gentle” humour, which is awesome for you.
But you need to accept that Tearfree and many of her readers, like Jacy, prefer dry humour, dark humour and biting satire, and that just because we’ve made different choices, we’re not bad people. We are totally for world peace too.
So to keep you and the Mummy bloggers coming back, Tearfree is asking readers to recommend gentle humour for Jenn and the wonderfully named McBunni, who also complained about mean jokes in an earlier comment thread.
The rules are that you can’t mock anyone including Upperclass Englishmen, George Bush and feminists.
Jacy,
You are a total comment rock Star, but be careful not to drink the Tearfree Koolaid and chase Jenn away.
The Mummy Bloggers make great commenters and it is awesome that someone named McBunni came all the way from Colorado to tell us that she she doesn,t'get it.
It's almost as awesome as you giving us a scoop about THE POST THAT WAS SOOOO EMBARRASSING ECKLER TOOK IT DOWN.
You rock Jacy even without the Coach bag.
Toxic female friendships: who, past the age of 19, still has them?
Tells you a little something about the maturity level.
Holy Smokes, Jacy...I rarely tell people how awesome they are, and although I do enjoy reading Rebecca Ecklers blog, my life doesn't revolve around her like some peoples lives seem too. I don't agree with her parenting choices, and I am certain that I would do things quite differently than she if I were in her position. That being said, I am absolutely certain that there are things that I do as a mother that other people wouldn't approve of. That being said, why be nasty about it? Yeah, I get that there are people out there who don't like her, but you know, I've never met the woman, I enjoy reading her blog, and I really don't feel like I have the right to judge her.
Oh, and I do read Andrea's blog, but thanks.
As for Tearfree, and my sense of humour. I get that you're trying to be funny, I get that there are certain people that you don't like. I just wish you would turn your wicked sense of humour to other, less personal things.
Not that I'm telling you what you should write on your blog. So you go, sister, keep writing whatever you want to write. You rock.
Want some Koolaid? It's yummy...
You are right, Tearfree ... I mustn't chase them away. I am simply sinking to their level. I will stop. Thanks for the gentle slap.
Okay Jenn. We get it. You are normal, sane, we are mean, crazy. Got it. I always found grape, by the way, to be the yummiest Koolaid flavour.
The last thing I hope ever to utter/think about Eckler's blog, which I stopped reading weeks ago but, yes, have been interested in this week because Tearfree is on about it: what really bothers me most, as a mother, is what her kid is going to think when she grows up and reads some of that stuff. I really feel for that child, particularly after the Post that Eckler seems to have deleted. It bothered me so much -- that the woman was surprised the poor little girl seemed to crave her mother's company -- that I had to stop reading it. There was one before that when she was really nasty about her in-laws. Much meaner and nastier than anything said in here about her. These are her beloved family members! And the Mommies chime in and say: You rock! You are sooooo funny!
On to newer, more interesting topics!
Here is something, Tearfree, that bothers me. I know just as many men who have fucked-up frienships but they aren't called toxic male friendships. Why do we as women always get slapped with being catty and toxic if we don't like someone or issue a complaint abouat something. men do it. when women do it, we are all catty b*tches (no swearing...)
Not all of us "mommy bloggers" don't fucking curse.
Just because Jenn doesn't like your blog doesn't mean she doesn't get it. As far as I can see, there's nothing to get.
Liking dry humour, dark humour and biting satire is not the same as being able to deliver any of them. You are failing at all three. The only thing funny about this blog that you're the only one who can't see how boring it is.
We got it, you don't like mummybloggers and you don't like Eckler. Is there any other point here? Either we'll all missing it or you're not nearly as good a communicator as you profess to be.
At first I was pissed at this blog. You did seem, when you first started, to be unecessarily mean. But, recently, you have backed off a tad, and you know what? I'm starting to enjoy your postings (no to the second pair of shoes by the way - waym way to soccer mom heading to the library) and I laugh about the softwood lumber posts) I don't get mean bloggers. I'm a blogger and many many people - including you - have made fun of what I do. I just don't get why the meaness. And some of the mommy bloggers you were really mean to are very sweet people, who do help other bloggers going through a tough time. They do. Can't you disagree without being a devil child about it? Or is the world really filled with such hateful people (including, some, but definitely not all) of your commentators. I'm still on the fence with your blog. I can understand why you're doing it and I can appreciate. But do good with it not evil. Perhaps I will out myself but for now I'll be Not Really Annie, until I'm, 100 per cent sure, I like you...or even 75 percent sure.
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